Thursday, October 19, 2006

Plus One More

I don’t think I can hold this news in any longer or else I will burst!

I am Pregnant with my second child!!!!!!!!!

It been a long two year journey to get here but get here we did in the end. Now where do I start?

When my daughter was a year and a half I finally made the conscious decision that I was ready to have another baby – before that I just wasn’t ready. I had found it difficult to cope being a first time mom and in hindsight I think I suffered a bit from post natal depression.

After about a year of trying nothing had happened. I began to wonder if anything was the matter – after all I got pregnant the first time without even thinking about it. Could it be the fact that I went on the Pill after I’d had my first child? Am I not relaxed enough (why does everyone tell you to ‘relax’ when you are trying for a baby?)? Have I put on weight? Am I too old? All sorts of thoughts were swirling around my head. Then in November of last year, bingo, I got pregnant but sadly I miscarried a few weeks later. However this helped get the ball rolling.

The next 10 months were filled with endless medical tests being carried out on me and my husband. Urine tests, sperm tests, blood tests, external scans, internal scans, internal examinations, and a hysterosalpingogram (HSG). On my medical notes, I was put in the category of Secondary Infertility. By this time any passion between the sheets had become a mechanical chore. There is something about trying for a baby for a long time and nothing happening that acts as a real passion killer. You get to a stage where you ask yourself what the point is.

But I think what I hated the most was

  1. Constantly being asked by people, ‘So when is number two coming?’ and

  2. Having the fact pointed out to me that I already had a beautiful little girl so I should be grateful.

Both situations elicited the same response from me, Piss Off! But I never voiced it of course; I just smiled through very tight lips and changed the subject.

(Listen, if you have a friend or sister who is trying for a child, please, please do not keep asking when number two is coming, or reminding them of what they already have.)

At the end of all these tests, the results showed that both my husband and I were okay. There was a slight possibility that I may have ovarian cysts but this turned out to be a false alarm (thank goodness).

I had my final visit with my Consultant Gynaecologist in September and I was prescribed a four month supply of the drug Clomid. All we now had to do was wait for my next period, take one Clomid tablet a day for five days and have lots of sex for the next twelve. Sounds fun, huh?

Within me, I balked at the idea of having to take a drug to get pregnant – I wanted to get pregnant naturally. But I had no choices left open to me. Prayers had long since ended and resignation had slowly but surely set in.

So I clutched my prescription for my Clomid and headed for the nearest pharmacy with the words of my consultant ringing in my ears:

‘Just chill out (yes she said that *smile*), relax (oh no) and the next time I see you, I want to see you with a baby.’ But (there is always a but) she added, ‘If after four months you are still not pregnant, we will have to refer you to the infertility clinic.’

Cheery news. What baffled me all the way through the numerous tests was how a perfectly normal fertile woman like myself, could suddenly become infertile.

I brought home the little white cardboard box with the word CLOMID printed on it in bold blue letters and sat it on my shelf and waited for my next period to arrive. And I waited, and waited and waited.

10 days late I dared to let this thought creep into my head ‘Could I be pregnant?’ It was a quiet thought but it carried so much hope. I approached my stash of pregnancy test strips (I had ordered hundreds of them during the period I was undergoing all those tests) and pulled out one of the white foil packets. Oh, how many times had I done this and gotten a negative result which left me devastated every time?

I tore open the foil packet, took a wee sample, and stuck the test strip into it and squeezed my eyes shut; please, please, please, please, please. Five seconds later, I pulled out the strip. I watched the wee soak its way up the strip past the control line and past the test line. Yes, there was the control line – a bright red – but wait, there was a SECOND LINE – the test line! POSITIVE!! I couldn’t believe it and I didn’t.

I so didn’t believe it that over the next four days I carried out four more pregnancy tests which all gave me the same results. At last, I could believe it. Then and only then did I break the news to my husband. We had done it and without Clomid!

Needless to say, we are both very happy and I wanted to share some of that happiness with you.

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24 Comments:

Blogger LondonBuki said...

C-O-N-G-R-A-T-U-L-A-T-I-O-N-S!!!!!!

Hopefully, it'll be a pleasant and enjoyable pregnancy :-)

1:59 pm  
Blogger Uzo said...

Oh Wow. Congratualations. Please let us know each step of the way how things are going. WOW....

2:46 pm  
Anonymous songreach said...

Congratulations!!

3:35 pm  
Blogger Belle said...

What a testimony! WOW.. I am so happy for you!! This is awesome news..Congrats! :)

4:09 pm  
Anonymous didi said...

God i good.congratulations

8:22 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

-CONGRATULATIONS.

God be praised. i wish you a safe and pleasant pregnancy, and delivery. God bless you.

9:57 am  
Anonymous naijagal said...

congratulations !!!! dear!!! i enjoy reading your blog this one tops the cake:) so happy for you!

4:43 pm  
Blogger April said...

Congratulations and best wishes!

5:47 pm  
Blogger Ore said...

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!

5:51 pm  
Blogger My Talking Beginnings said...

I'm delighted for you..babies are such a blessing. Especially given the fact that you have every excuse to scoff on all things nice...pasties, scones blah blah blah..you are sha eating for two now are you not? hehe

10:01 pm  
Blogger adefunke said...

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10:28 pm  
Blogger adefunke said...

OMG! Congratulations!!!!!!

So thats what Comid is for, hmm ...

10:33 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm ELATED. I don't know you but I truly am.My prayer is for you to have a safe pregnancy and delivery. HEARTY CONGRATULATIONS!!!

7:04 am  
Anonymous ayoke said...

Congratulations!

6:13 pm  
Blogger Shana said...

I run a website, Babes in Blogland, that lists ttc, expecting, and parenting bloggers to help us all find one another. I've added your site to the blogroll. If you need me to correct any information or if you would like for me to remove the link, please let me know.

Thank you and congratulations.

2:23 pm  
Blogger Adunni said...

CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!! MUMMIE

4:33 pm  
Blogger ToyinE said...

ohh congratulations!!! How excited are you?? Im jumping in my seat too because all these pregnancy news im getting this October...hmmm it must be the water :) Congratulations and please keep us posted - ive posted your blog to one of my girls who's in pretty much the same shoes right now at least so she knows she's not the only one :)

6:34 pm  
Blogger Gbemi's Piece said...

This is awesome news! Congratulations! What an amazing story. I just had a conversation with a girlfriend who's ttc and apparently, it is not as easy as one would like to think. Say, what are you going to do with all that Clomid? ;-)

6:40 pm  
Blogger In my head and around me said...

Congratulations!!!

I pray this pregnancy treats you well, makes you glow and the child grows up to be a blessing to all.

12:13 am  
Blogger Calabar Gal said...

Congratulations BABE!!! Now U can sit back ans enjoy the nights of passion without it being mechanical. LOL.

Best Wishes throughout ur pregnancy.

12:29 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

FELICIDADES!!!!! You will have a safe and healthy pregnancy! God Bless.

2:04 pm  
Blogger TP said...

WOW, good news! Congrats! Hope this is worth the wait. And I pray you have a safe pregnancy and easy delivery. Oooh we will be the cyber-aunties!

10:32 pm  
Anonymous olawunmi said...

can i be a blog uncle to the baby? you know that we're part of a larger blog fam now; i feel like a part of this just by reading your news.

congratulations again. lol

5:38 pm  
Blogger Cherub (former bijouxoxo) said...

Congratulations once again. So what did u do with the box of Clomid? By the grace of God, mother and child will be well- Amen.

3:26 pm  

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